When I was a kid - it was bringing home tons of cards in the box that I had decorated with hearts and flowers...
As a first time wife - it was flowers and big heart-shaped ruffly boxes of chocolates....
As a second time wife - it has been years of...sometimes flowers, sometimes candy... sometimes something cute like a teddy bear... sometimes just going out to dinner...many times...nothing - not even a card...
After years of that happening and me ending up crying alone upstairs... I decided to face Valentine's Day in a different way. That way was to stop expecting or hoping for something. That way I couldn't be hurt... And some years it worked...some years it didn't.
This morning, I got up and opened a card I had saved from a dear friend. It arrived yesterday, but I saved it for today. I opened it and smiled... I looked at a heart shaped magnet on my refrigerator that says "Love". I received this from another dear friend this year... and I smiled...
I won't get anything from my husband this year - and you know what...I'm good with that! I'm over it.... When he came downstairs this morning, I said, there is a mouse in the mousetrap - Happy Valentine's Day - and I giggled! Maybe some years that is what it is all about - real life.
I'll celebrate Valentine's Day this year... in my own way - it is a day I've always loved - I think because I love heart shaped items so much... I'll celebrate it with the gift of all the dear friendships I have out there in the world... ones that warm my heart...
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You know, my husband isn't big on Valentine's Day either but yet I get messages from all my friends. I'm okay with that - I just tell myself that it's a Hallmark Holiday and move on!!
I, too, like hearts and all the pinks and reds of this holiday. My "Valentines" are three kitties, and my family. My brother, my mom & dad and my son all called me to wish me "a happy" yesterday.
Flowers? One deep coral rose was in bloom outside and I brought it in to place in a bud vase (out of Violet's reach).
I like your attitude, Linda.
Andrea
Happy V Day, Linda. (I know it's belated, but that's all right.) I'm glad you've got such a good attitude about it. I got calls from friends, but don't have a significant other of any kind atm, so I got nothing with hearts or flowers. The phone calls I got made my day, however! So it's all good. And if your friends are willing to say I love you on V Day, then you take them all and hug them back and love them the best way you know how!
Your post brought a tear to my eye, then by the end I was smiling for you. Just keep on picking up those heart shape things you love so much even when it's not valentine. I started doing that a long time ago and I threw disappointment or expectation to the wind. Then when he does do something it really is special and I can love him for it.
hugs, babs
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