Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Valentine's Day....

When I was a kid - it was bringing home tons of cards in the box that I had decorated with hearts and flowers...

As a first time wife - it was flowers and big heart-shaped ruffly boxes of chocolates....

As a second time wife - it has been years of...sometimes flowers, sometimes candy... sometimes something cute like a teddy bear... sometimes just going out to dinner...many times...nothing - not even a card...

After years of that happening and me ending up crying alone upstairs... I decided to face Valentine's Day in a different way. That way was to stop expecting or hoping for something. That way I couldn't be hurt... And some years it worked...some years it didn't.

This morning, I got up and opened a card I had saved from a dear friend. It arrived yesterday, but I saved it for today. I opened it and smiled... I looked at a heart shaped magnet on my refrigerator that says "Love". I received this from another dear friend this year... and I smiled...

I won't get anything from my husband this year - and you know what...I'm good with that! I'm over it.... When he came downstairs this morning, I said, there is a mouse in the mousetrap - Happy Valentine's Day - and I giggled! Maybe some years that is what it is all about - real life.

I'll celebrate Valentine's Day this year... in my own way - it is a day I've always loved - I think because I love heart shaped items so much... I'll celebrate it with the gift of all the dear friendships I have out there in the world... ones that warm my heart...

5 comments:

Rita said...

Happy Valentine's Day!

Deb said...

You know, my husband isn't big on Valentine's Day either but yet I get messages from all my friends. I'm okay with that - I just tell myself that it's a Hallmark Holiday and move on!!

Anonymous said...

I, too, like hearts and all the pinks and reds of this holiday. My "Valentines" are three kitties, and my family. My brother, my mom & dad and my son all called me to wish me "a happy" yesterday.

Flowers? One deep coral rose was in bloom outside and I brought it in to place in a bud vase (out of Violet's reach).

I like your attitude, Linda.

Andrea

mdgtjulie said...

Happy V Day, Linda. (I know it's belated, but that's all right.) I'm glad you've got such a good attitude about it. I got calls from friends, but don't have a significant other of any kind atm, so I got nothing with hearts or flowers. The phone calls I got made my day, however! So it's all good. And if your friends are willing to say I love you on V Day, then you take them all and hug them back and love them the best way you know how!

Babs in Alabama said...

Your post brought a tear to my eye, then by the end I was smiling for you. Just keep on picking up those heart shape things you love so much even when it's not valentine. I started doing that a long time ago and I threw disappointment or expectation to the wind. Then when he does do something it really is special and I can love him for it.
hugs, babs